The visuals.
Clear out the clutter in your bedroomeven the dust bunnies under your bed.
A lazy environment promotes lazy sex.
A clean space is a sacred space, worthy of two lovers bonding physically.Cleanliness is a turn-on.
Add candles to create soft light and serenity.
Think of the last time you saw a blissful sunsethow transcendent its glow was.
Or have you ever noticed how relaxing it is to sit and watch a fire?
Bring that same sense of appreciation and awe to the way you look into your partner’s eyes.
Take each other in fully, mindfully building anticipation.
The scents and tastes.
Put some chocolate on your nightstand.
This is a simple detail that will help a lot when you’re getting in the mood for sex.
Next, trace the chocolate square with the tip of your tongue, licking it ever-so-gently.
Appreciate the creamy, silky, smooth, sensual texture of the chocolate on your soft, wet lips.
Do this for about 35 breaths to truly savor the sensation.
Rose essential oil can be a great option, as it opens the heart chakra up for love.
The sounds.
Music can trigger different moods and really heighten emotions.
So you definitely don’t want Comedy Central on in the background when you’re making your moves.
You also don’t want to be interrupted by a call or Facebook notification.
Eliminating distractions helps you focus on each other and more accurately read each other’s bodies.
To do that, play rhythmic sounds likeisochronic tones.
They awaken thekundalinithe sexual energy and heat inside of youjust like an orgasm that builds before full release.
The sounds you make are equally arousing.
When you’re using that piece of chocolate as a sensual tool, don’t be silent.
Make as many “mmm, mmm” sounds as you would if you were eating a decadent cake.
Don’t hold back.
The vibrations you create with that sound will engage you both further and make you more present.
The only temptation should be right in front of you.
you’re free to also hum when you’re kissing or licking each other or giving oral pleasure.
The humming sensation provides a very stimulating vibration.
The touches.
It’s a wonderful way to communicate with your partner.
Consider making tantric massages like theyoni massageorlingam massagepart of your sexual sessions.
The intention.
Your environment isn’t only physical; it’s also mental.
Form your intention with an affirmation calledsankalpa.Sankalpais a Sanskrit word meaning “the seed of your intention.”
Your affirmation could be, “I have sex with my partner every day.”
It doesn’t matter what your intention is, as long as it’s personal and meaningful to you.
You have to be clear on what you want to start to attract it.
Just like a seed, your intention is fragile.
It will only grow if you feed it.
How creating the right environment improves the sexual experience.
Anticipation: We tend to overlook it, don’t we?
It’s like watching the trailers for movies before the film starts.
But, in reality, anticipation is the secret to creating an intimate environment and unlocking your sensuality.
Think of your routine to get ready for a date.
You don’t just shower and throw on the first dress or pair of jeans you see.
These steps aren’t solely to impress the person you were meeting.
The ritual helps you feel confident.
It helps you set aside insecurities and reveal your inner light.
That preparatory ritual adds to the anticipation of the main experience.
