Firstly, you want to ask yourself if you’ve really given the relationship a fair shot.
(Here’s ourfull guide to knowing when it’s time to break upfor more information.)
How to break up with someone you love:
Prepare for the conversation.
As Spinelli suggests, “Think about how you want to communicate why the relationship isn’t working.
If you need support, talk it through with a resource or trusted friend.”
She notes that it’s important to remember the full breakup may require more than one conversation.
Compassionately explain your reasoning.
Find a time to sit down and open up the conversation.
Listen to their side.
And an amicable breakup involves both people expressing their side of the story.
Own your part of the breakup.
On a similar note to no.
Set boundaries.
You’ll want to set and hold firmboundariesthroughout the breakup conversation(s) and following the breakup.
Familiarize yourself with the standard stages of a breakup.
(Obvious spoiler: It’s not an easy process.)
Plus, everyone will move through these stages ata different pace.
Here’s ourfull guide to each of these breakup stagesfor more information.
Avoid contact and social media stalking.
Here’s our explainer on thedo’s and don’ts of reaching out to an exfor more help.
Create a post-breakup self-care plan.
Think things like connecting with friends, booking yourself a weekend getaway, or starting a new hobby.
We have a full list of50+ self-care ideasto help get you started.
Lean on your support system.
That’s what friends are for, so don’t be afraid to ask for help!
Focus on yourself.
Work with a mental health professional.
It’s a major transition, especially if you’ve been together for a long time.
FAQ
How do I break up with someone I still love?
How do you know when it’s time to break up?
Your well-being is the most important factor to consider when assessing whether to end the relationship.
