Nobody ever teaches us how to leave someone you love but can’t be with.
This process is different fromhow to break up with someonein any other context.
This is the hardest part.
Have you been lowering your standards and accepting far less than you deserve?
Imagine you’re helping your best friend gain perspective on their relationship.
What would you be pointing out to them about their partner?
Accept that you are no longer willing to have that as part of your daily experience.
Allow the pain of your reality to be fully experienced in your heartas opposed to your head.
This discomfort will start providing the necessary drive for the impending change that’s to come.
If you numb the pain now, it will only be exacerbated over time.
Separate the objective truth from your inner story.
That way, we can avoid feeling like we are betraying ourselves.
There are always difficulties with your soul mate, right?"
Realize you want to meet your needs at a higher level.
From there, you’ve got the option to consider healthier alternatives.
Is the relationship meeting your needs for security and safety?
A sense of adventure and passion?
Establish a support system.
Life changes in the world of romantic intimacy trigger deep fear and vulnerability in us.
Commit to a decision, and follow-through.
Do you better move out?
Do you gotta hire a lawyer?
If finances are involved, what might the transition look like?
Oftentimes, we feel like we have to decide between two bad choices.
However, there’s always a third choice if you’re willing to dig deep.
Breathe, move, and connect to the vision of the future that you want.
From this emotional space, you’re free to then have a conversation with your partner.
Making the decision to leave someone you love but isn’t right for you is never easy.
But it can be made simpler.
All you oughta do is honestly and deeply consider what your heart craves, needs, and deserves.
