Is it really time to call it quits?
How do you bring it up?
And how do you sort out living arrangements afterward?
Get clear on the reasons you think it’s time to end things.
Perhaps the partnership makes you feel invisible, insecure, needy, or consistently negative.
In some instances, you may have expressed concerns with your partner, and nothing’s changed.
In general, here are somesigns you should break up, from psychotherapistMegan Bruneau, M.A.
“Preparing can help you feel more grounded and less anxious.
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Come prepared with a plan in place for what follows the breakup, and be ready to answer questions.
“Express your emotions with kindness and authenticity,” Spinelli says.
“It is important tonavigate the conversationwith respect to yourself and to your partner.”
And as respectfully as you might, keep your boundaries firm and remember why you’re having the conversation.
So, Spinelli advises going into it prepared for the immediate aftermath.
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Do you have kids together?
Be open and honest with your kids, and answer any questions they might have.
If you and your partner both have legal custody, consulting with a lawyer may be necessary.
(Here’s more onhow to end a marriage with kids.)
You’re likely not going to get a “clean break.”
Moving on
Moving ontypically isn’t a cakewalk for most, so lean on your people.
This is a natural human reaction, she says.
“You are allowed to make choices for your happiness and well-being.”
And lastly, if you still have to live together for a while, again, communication is key.
Set boundaries and give each other space, and keep communicating honestly.
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