However, it’s sometimes necessary, and virtually a universal part of life.
Here’s how to do it right.
Either waybreaking up is famously hard to do.
“Your lives are enmeshed in many ways.”
No one wants to be seen as “the bad guy,” after all.
If you’re considering a break-up, therapists recommend you look for the following signs.
And don’t forgetsimply wanting to break up with someone is enough of a reason to do it.
The trust is gone
Trust isessential within healthy relationships, Lucero says.
It usually takes commitment from both partners to rebuild trust.
“We’re kind of prolonging the inevitable,” Sosa says.
“It takes a lot of courage to push past that point.”
The biggest reason to break up with someone is simply because you want to.
“We can normalize that some relationships end for no big reason.”
“As opposed to, ‘There’s something wrong with you.'”
Be clear in your explanation
Do your emotional homework before breaking up with someone.
Really consider who you are and what you stand for," Lucero says.
“We don’t have to tell them all the details,” Sosa says.
“It’s not just about, ‘These are my feelings.’
It’s now, ‘What do we do?
How do we divide things up?’
Too much talking can lead you to overthink or agonize over the break-up, she says.
Regardless of how well the break-up went, you’ll need to look after yourmental and emotional health.
Give yourself compassion and time toprocess the breakup, then you’re able to heal.
Be around people who love you,” Lucero says.
The age-old question: Can I be friends with my ex?
You probably already know the answer: it depends.
When deciding whether you want to continue being around your ex, pay close attention to your feelings.
These may also be distorted thoughts that need to be challenged," Lucero says.
“Therapists are trained to help you through this process without projecting their own bias.”
There are no rules for the “perfect” breakup.
“you might try things out and figure out what works best for you,” Sosa says.
The takeaway
There is no easy way out of a relationship.
From contemplating, to executing, to processing a breakup, every stage tends to bepretty difficult.
Breaking up is hard to do, but sometimes life involves doing hard things.
