The “genuine care” part is where a lot of people get tripped up.
What “friends with benefits” really means.
Typically, the two people genuinely enjoy spending time together but aren’t interested in each other romantically.
What do friends with benefits normally do together?
There are no set rules about what friends with benefits definitely do or don’t do together.
It all depends on the personal preferences of the two people involved.
Other FWBs may prefer to only meet up at night for sex.
Is it a good idea?
A friends with benefits relationship can be a great fit for some people and not really work for others.
Tips for navigating friends with benefits situations.
Get clear on your definition of what it means to be friends with benefits.
Take time todefine the relationship.
The two of you should directly discuss what you want and what you don’t want.
What are the expectations around exclusivity and safe sex?
Are you sleeping with other people?
What kind of sexual protection are you using with others and each other?
What are your boundaries?
Are sleepovers on the table?
Are you going on dates every now and then, or just shooting the shit at someone’s apartment?
Understand what your partner wants from the relationship.
Yes, you should care about what your partner wants, even in an FWB situation.
Check in with each other regularly.
“Check in periodically to see to it what’s happening is still OK,” Battle recommends.
“Should there be more boundaries or fewer?
Whether we like to admit it or not, friends with benefits is atype of relationship.
It’s normal for things to change over time, Vrangalova adds.
Talk about your feelings.
Battle and Vrangalova disagree completely.
Talking about your emotions is the only way to confirm neither person is getting hurt by the situation.
Should you stop seeing each other or take a break?
Should the person who’s getting more attached start seeing other people?”
Be considerate and empathetic.
Care about each other.
“You have every right to set the parameters of your FWB situation.
The bottom line.
Friends with benefits can be a fun, warm, and satisfying way to connect with another person.
Remember, you don’t need to be in love to care about someone.
