Take responsibility
By this point, youve identified someone to whom you oughta make amends.
In some way, youve already taken responsibility by admitting that you caused the other person harm.
But it also might help to name the actions you took that caused that harm.
you’re free to still make amends for even a small amount of harm.
The conditions for making amends can take many forms.
When making your decision, consider what is going to be easiest for the person receiving the amends.
Use I statements: Start your sentences with your actions, feelings, and responsibilitiesnot the other persons.
I want to make it up to you in some way.
Keep it short, direct, and focused on your own actionsnot what the other person did.
So again, think about the other person, not just yourself.
Again, be respectful of the other persons feelings and needs.
One suggestion is to make the amends anyway, either on paper or by saying the words out loud.
Make your statement to the persons spirit or memory.
Make a pledge to change your own behavior to avoid someone else suffering in similar situations.
Create intentions without expectations
Creating intentionswithout expectations means that you make amends without expecting anything in return.
Making amends is not a guarantee that anything between you and the other person will change or improve.
And yet, our suggestion is that you should still do it.
When we offer amends, there is often an unburdening of those feelings.
It is like a spiritual detoxification process.
Making amends is an ongoing process that should be a part of your daily spiritual practice.
Recognizing your mistakes and making amends is an integral part of your spiritual growth.
