When a relationship has run its course, we eventually have tolet that person go.
Here’s what they had to say.
What it means to let go of someone.
That acceptance is the letting go.
Abuse should never be tolerated, Leeds tells mbg.
You’re always making excuses for them.
You don’t like who you are around them.
They drain your energy.
You’ve outgrown them.
Sometimes, even if a relationship isn’t unhealthy or toxic, we simply outgrow it.
“Some people choose not to grow or choose to calcify or devolve into something else.
And if they’re not, it’s time to walk away.
There are more bad times than good.
Simply stated, if the relationship is causing more hardship than anything else, what’s the point?
“When you fight more often than not, it’s time to consider leaving.
Your loved ones don’t approve of them.
It’s one thing if your one most protective friend has reservations about your partner.
you’ve got the option to’t see a future with them.
There’s an unequal give and take.
(Here’s how to tell if you’re in aone-sided relationship.)
They don’t stay true to their word.
You don’t trust them.
Your priorities and values aren’t aligned.
This one ties back to the idea of being able to see a future with this person.
There’s a lack of respect.
You’ve been consistently thinking about letting them go.
No more excuses, rose-colored glasses, or staying in a toxic dynamic.
Listen to your gut!
How to truly let go of someone you love:
double-check you’re safe.
As much as you might love this person, it’s important to think realistically about the situation.
You might even have to be discreet in your getaway, Neo adds.
(Here’s ourfull guide to leaving an abusive relationship.)
Open up a dialogue.
Hold your boundaries firmly.
Stand firm in the breakup, and hold your boundaries.
“ensure that you stay rock solid like a mountain.
Do not move,” Neo adds.
Be direct but also compassionate.
During the breakup, Leeds advises clearly and compassionately explaining that you’d like to go your separate ways.
Go no-contact if you’re free to.
Once the breakup is said and done, the real work of letting go is maintaining it.
“Remember that it’s not your job to get your partner through the pain of the breakup.
Know that you’re worthy of love.
Reconnect to the other parts of your life.
Remind yourself why it didn’t work out.
Letting someone go is a process, and you may have moments when you start to romanticize the past.
Give yourself plenty of self-care.
Lastly, give yourself plenty of time and energy to focus on yourself.
“Take time for yourself.
The bottom line.
If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1.
They’re available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
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