Here’s what to know.
From there, you’ve got the option to ask about what might feel best.
Be a safe place for them to land.
Sometimes all we really need from a friend is knowing that they’re there for us no matter what.
Try something somatic based, like walking.
(Some people may even prefer a chance to move their body and not have to speak.)
Simply be a comforting presence.
And speaking of not using words, again, sometimes this is preferred.
Be patient and understanding.
Send them encouraging texts.
Validate them & make them feel understood.
Validation is key when comforting a loved one.
Practiceactive listening, and back up all the things they’re telling you.
Do some favors for them, big or small.
Don’t give unsolicited advice or have a go at force them to cheer up.
Your friend will likely just feel patronized, and that’s not comforting.
If you’ve hurt them.
Knowinghow to apologize correctlyis the first step.
Be genuine and earnest that you are sorry.
Good intentions don’t justify the negative impact, he reminds.
This is what it means to truly make amends."
FAQ:
What should I say to comfort someone over text?
How do you comfort someone who is crying?
If someone is crying and you aren’t sure how to comfort them, sometimes words aren’t necessary.
