I was initially drawn to meditation as a way to find relief from anxiety.
I tried a few other types of meditation before I foundtantra.
Zen meditation, for example, made me feel calm.
I could see the value in it.
But something wasn’t clicking for me.
It felt more masculine.
I didn’t feel like my female energy was powerful in this practice.
I found my life coming together and ideas coming to fruition very quickly after beginning to study tantra.
I wanted a practice in which I could be expressed asmyself.I’m a sexual being.
I’m a sensual being.
I embrace everything about womanhood and want that as part of my spiritual practice as well.
My trip to India nearly a decade ago was my introduction totantra.
In India, I visited temples with erotic carvings of people in every sexual position.
I had been raised Christian, with the image of God as a man and definitely not erotic.
Instead of cutting off your hair, you put flowers in your hair.
I felt like I had finally found my tribe.
When my tantra teacher asked me, “Do you want to studysexual tantra?”
I was taken aback at first.
I didn’t know what it was.
I was like, “Hell yeah!
This is what I’ve been looking for.
Blending sexuality with spirituality made sense for me.
I’ve always been a sexual person.
But in most religions and philosophies, there is a lot of shame and guilt associated with sex.
We’re taught to suppress our desires.
In tantra, sex is a sacred thing.
Sexuality is something to be honored.
And theyoni(vagina) andlingam(penis) are to be worshipednot feared or hidden or kept secret.
Tantra has changed my life.
It’s given me my life’s purpose.
Tantra originated in ancient Sumeria and Babylon, when people believed the goddess was more powerful than the god.
She was the giver of life.
There were temples run by priestesses where people would come and worship and pray by having sex.
I was surprised to find that tantra gave me faster results than regular meditation.
I found my life coming together and ideas coming to fruition very quickly after beginning this practice.
I started the practice with the simple three-part tantra breath work, which I still do every day.
The three parts of tantra breathing are Bliss Breath, Arousal Breath, and Sound Breath.
I use it throughout my day too.
you could call on it in most everyday situations.
While doing this, pump your belly back and forth in rhythm with your inhales and exhales.
This builds heat and arousal in your body.
This is where the KISS Meditation comes in.
KISS stands for Kinetic, Intimacy, Slow Down, and Sensuality.
It’s typically done with a partner to form a moreintimate connection.
I truly believe tantra is crucial in bringing mindfulness to everything we do.
Other meditation practices dance around or avoid sexual energy.
Tantra allows us to give that powerful energy direction.
