At times I feel very sexy and attractive, but other times not so much.
I want that to change.
He tries everything he knows to do and performs well.
Sometimes I have orgasms, but mostly, I don’t quite get there.
I don’t know what to do, so I am reaching out to you.
First, thank you so much for asking this question!
I want to let you know that you’re not alone.
That doesn’t even take into account other less “criminal” traumas women experience.
I promise you don’t need to be a victim of past trauma.
you might find solutions and be more powerful than before you were wounded.
I encourage you to give a shot to approach your sensuality without judgment and without shame.
They are effective ways to heal because they work with the body and spirit as well as the brain.
Sexuality, in tantric thinking, is physical, psychological, and spiritual.
One more note before we dive in.
Remember that as you heal yourself, there are women around the world who’ve also experienced trauma.
Even asking this question will help thousands of readers, so, kudos!
We are still primal creatures.
Instead, your brain tells you to ignore your toe and keep running.
But, it’s only by un-numbing that you’ll be able to truly heal.
Because experiencing an orgasm is, in many ways, the ultimate act of relinquishing control.
It’s a total release at the physical, mental, and spiritual level.
Before an orgasm, the whole body tenses and then completely loses control in climax.
So, how do you do that?
I’ll show you.
The fact that you really like him could actually be part of the difficulty.
It’s scarier to lose control, sometimes, with someone you really like and are afraid of losing.
What if you get hurt again?
You have to risk opening your body, mind, and spirit in a moment of orgasmic bliss.
Know that you will always be OK because you love yourself first.
I have concentrated it into a potent exercise that can change your intimacy and sex forever.
K: Kinetic
Tantra is about tapping into and embracing our inherent sexual energy.
I: Intimacy
Tantra principles create deeper intimacy and make a true “heart connection” through mindful sex.
When trying something new, those judgments and fears can be amplified.
The key is to go into this with no judgment and no agendajust let go and have fun.
Bliss breath is a tantra technique that makes you feel much closer to your partner.
It helps you have a deeper tantra experience.
It sounds like a sexy Darth Vader.
Being in sync with our breath can bring you into a trance-like state.
Intimacy is not just about being naked and engaging in intercourse.
Even when you are, you might still hide from true intimacy.
As they say, the eyes are the windows to the soul.
So, try holding eye contact during foreplay and during sex for a prolonged time.
Or, they are just afraid to be truly connected.
Caressing your partner with a feather-light touch is one form of foreplay in tantra.
you might run your fingernails gently up and down his arms, his back, his neck, etc.
The skin is a powerful and sensitive organ.
It also raises the anticipation of sex, which increases dopamine levels in the body.
In tantra, foreplay is not about oral sex or heavy making out.
It can be gentle, sensual, and loving and still create a magnetic build-up.
The second position has the woman’s knees over her partner’s legs.
In the third position, she straddles him and wraps her legs around himchest-to-chest, heart-to-heart, and genitals-to-genitals.
We are prolonging intercourse to build up that arousal and tension.
With the 20-second hugchest-to-chestyou will feel a rush."
Can you imagine what you will feel with 15 minutes of yab-yum?
