A2020 study1found the average time it takes women to reach orgasm during sex with men is 13.41 minutes.
Notably, they typically required sexual activities other than just penis-in-vagina intercourse.
That said, there is no average amount of time a woman “lasts” in bed.
That means sex for women with vulvas can last as long as both people want to continue having sex.
Sex also doesn’t always need to end inorgasm.
The same study found 17% of women hadnever had an orgasm before.
Summary
There’s no set duration for how long sex should last to be satisfying to women.
Anything between three and 13 minutes is considered typical, though.
While surveys and studies are wonderful resources, they don’t speak for everyone’s experience.
The best way to know how long a woman wants sex to last is to ask her yourself.
Most women cannot reach orgasm from P-in-V intercourse alone.
Measuring sex based on how long intercourse lasts thus doesn’t adequately take into account womens orgasms orpleasure.
Not only is this rule antiquated, but it’s also untrue.
When we assume sex follows a predetermined pattern, we miss out on the possibilities sex holds.
When you expand the definition of sex, a whole realm of sexual experiences opens.
in response to the norms we have a go at fit into.
Our definition of sex as well as factors likepreference, circumstance, and healthall affect how long sex lasts.
That’s not a bad thing.
This is when we get to figure out how longwewant sex to last.
Lewis recommends “allowing yourself the compassion to be exploratory.”
Every person, every relationship, and every sexual encounter is different.
There’s no one length of time sex “should” last.
In fact, the wordshouldhas no place in the bedroom.
Forget the time limits.
