When it comes to sex, is longer better?
Or do people prefer to cut to the chase?
The average duration of sex.
Men tended to report that foreplay lasted longer than women did.
Both men and women reported that sex lasted an average of seven minutes.
About 20% of women in same-gender relationships said their sexual sessions last an hour or more.
Is there an ideal for how long sex should last?
There is no ideal for how long sex should last outside what feels best for the individual people involved.
Clearly there’s a lot of variation in what’s considered ideal.
There’s not even really consensus around whether longer sex is better or worse.
found 82% said yes.
Factors that may affect how long sex lasts.
In other words, people with penises tend to reach orgasm more quickly the older they get.
Medical issues
Sexual dysfunction can affect how long sex lasts.
“Each person’s sexual response cycle is unique to them,” Howard notes.
“Understanding your own sexual response is a key to great sex.”
Once he finishes, the sex is considered over.
Meaning, yes, sex can continue even after the person with the penis has an orgasm.
If you’re defining sex this way, studies on average duration of vaginal sex are irrelevant.
A2014 studyon 822 people found lesbian couples tend to have significantly longer sex than gay men and mixed-gender couples.
How to last longer in bed:
Use lube.
“Lube is the remedy.”
Try edging.
Switch it up.
Orgasms usually happen from repeating a particularly stimulating action over and over, building up the pleasure rapidly.
Incorporate different forms of touch, talk, and adventure to your sexual intimacy."
Take turns.
Switch between who is the giver and who is the receiver of pleasure.
This can be mixed in with edging, too.
How to reach orgasm faster.
So if you plan on having sex tonight, skip the masturbation in the morning.
Touch yourself during partnered sex.
Many people masturbate regularly and know exactly how to make themselves have an orgasm when they’re alone.
Focus on the clitoris.
Most women require clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm; intercourse alone won’t get them there.
Bring in sex toys.
Vibrators and other sex toys can be immensely helpful for women and sometimes help them reach orgasm faster.
Avoid drugs and alcohol.
Drugs and alcohol can mess with your body’s usual sexual responses.
So if you want to be able to have an orgasm quickly, skip the substances beforehand.
Does the length of a sex session matter?
How long sex lasts isn’t directly correlated to how good the sex was, says Howard.
So much pressure."
“If it’s to increase your or your partner’s pleasure, then go for it.
If it’s to meet some sort of standard, then forget it!
How long you last only has to make sense to you and your partner.”
