When engaging in conversation, you expect to be talkingwitha person.
Unfortunately, if you’re talking to a true narcissist, two-way dialogue is highly unlikely.
One way to do this is by frequently paraphrasing what has been said to you.
Another is to willingly do what is requested of you, so long as you feel comfortable with it.
What exactly should I say to a narcissist?
Instead, the narcissist expects whattheysay to be acknowledged, appreciated, praised, and confirmed.
Begin any discussion with a compliment, flattery, or praise so that get the narcissist’s attention.
To keep their attention, listen endlessly.
This might be hard when narcissists repeat themselves, which they will hardly be aware of.
Should I be aware of any offensive behaviors?
They’ll do this to receive attention from others who might appreciate a story you’ve grown bored of.
If the narcissist shows haughty or arrogant behaviors or attitudes, do not take this demeanor personally.
They are characteristically this way with most people, even when not provoked.
This will hold their attention.
They will then maintain passive-aggressive behaviorslike the silent treatmentfor long periods of time.
In effect, talking to a narcissist is a one-sided experience.
Only when their long-winded speaking begins to reach a close can you respond effectively, if at all.
Do not ever expect the narcissist to empathize with your feelings in such a situation.
What if I’m dating a narcissist?
Wanting to be in arelationship with a narcissistmight seem compelling.
They are often charismatic, charming, extensively knowledgeable, and will persistently pursue you for your empathy.
He or she may make you feel enhanced and distinctive by being associated with them.
If you give that impression to the narcissist when you are talking, your relationship may remain stable.
Typically that happens when you are beginning to satisfy your own needs, not only those of the narcissist.
The narcissist feels exceptionally entitled to your dependence.
You may fear abandonment if you do not bring the narcissist back to the center of your life.
Your lapses may induce a narcissistic rage that you feel is your fault.
Trust me, it’s not.
