I coached her with questions like:How can you tell you have good footing?
Where is the next spot you’re going to put your hands and feet?
What spots look a little too hard to stand on?
Whenever I feel confused, I turn to answers in nature.
This shortens the butterfly’s lifespan and inhibits her development.
Put simply: Growth is in the struggle.
Why are you stepping in?
Get clear on your “why” before making moves and statements.
Sometimes, stepping in to solve the problem can have the opposite impact.
Instead, asking questions like: “How can you tell if a crush is right for you?
What does it feel like when you feel safe with someone?
If worries about your relationship arise, who do you feel comfortable talking about them with?”
This style of inquiry can be adjusted to all ages.
Telling her “Don’t bite” yields…you guessed it…more biting.
How did you develop confidence in an area where you previously struggled?
As we become more skilled at something, our confidence grows.
But so you can gain skills, we have to experience all the challenges that process brings.
Consider all of the mistakes you’ve made.
As your child struggles, can you lend them some of your confidence?
How can you lend that confidence to your child?
The takeaway
As humans, we learn through experience.
