Vibrators can make an excellent addition to both solo and couples' play.
Why use a vibrator?
Some vibrators, like bullets and wands, are primarily forclitoral stimulation.
Every person’s body is different, so experiment and explore.
If there are buttons, you’ll want to know which ones do what.
Charge your toys ahead of time
Remember to charge up your toysbeforeyou need them, Fleming says.
Sex educatorMarla Renee Stewart, M.A.,suggests actuallyschedulingtime for playing with your vibrator.
Get yourself aroused
Ease into the experience.
Particularly if using a new vibrator but also just as a general rule of thumb, take your time.
After all, what’s the rush?
“Taking your time with the toys is going to be key,” Stewart says.
Particularly for people with vaginas, it can take some time to really get aroused.
“When people are aroused, they’re more open and receptive.”
“Don’t rush to get it on the genitals right away.
Try different positions
When using a vibrator, different positions can offer different sensations.
“How you’re masturbating can be also a way for you to explore,” Stewart says.
Use lube
Fleming and Stewart both recommend adding lube to the mix.
Otherwise, the toys can inadvertently tug on your skin uncomfortably.
“Tryingdifferent lubesis key,” Stewart adds.
And remember, what feels good one day may feel different tomorrow.
It’s very much dependent on context,” Fleming adds.
Fleming suggests starting small with something like a bullet because they’re not visually overwhelming.
They’re small, discreet, and not intimidating, making them great to experiment with.
“If it’s your first, I would start with a bullet,” Fleming says.
Of course, you’re able to definitely try both, too, if you want!
Once you’re already sufficiently turned on, apply some lube to both your clit and the bullet.
Play with the different controls, preferably starting off slow, and apply pressure to the clit.
Add some lube to the mix before you go in with your vibrator.
Angle the vibrator so the curved side is pointed up and will stimulate the G-spot.
The G-spot isn’t very far from the vaginal opening, so work with steady pressure and short thrusts.
Find an angle that allows for both comfortably, and play around with different positions.
Wand vibrators offer super-powerful vibrations, so they can cause some numbness.
If this happens, just take it easy for a moment and perhaps turn down the setting.
It can help to incorporate a barrier such as a towel or underwear if it’s too intense.
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Most toys come with a pouch or case for storage.
Also, “verify it’s completely dry before you put it away,” she adds.
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