Emotional intimacy thrives when both people, or all concerned, feel safe with each other.
The question then becomes what creates safety?
Here are six ways to increase the emotional intimacy in your most significant relationships.
Take responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
Be open to learning about yourself, both alone and with your partner.
Believe in your own and each other’s essential goodness.
Be caring, kind, and compassionate with each other rather than judgmental.
One of the quickest ways of undermining intimacy is to be judgmental.
We need to be able to rely on each others caring for feel the safety necessary for emotional intimacy.
Be fully present with each other when you are together.
Presence is essential for emotional intimacy to flourish.
While sharing feelings might feel vulnerable, vulnerability is essential for emotional connection.
Be devoted to honesty and integrity to being trustworthy.
We need to be able to trust each other so you can be open and vulnerable.
We trust that we are devoted to being honest with each other, even when it’s hard.
We need to know that integrity is important to each of us.
Having integrity means not behaving in ways that go against our essence our conscience.
When we are true to our essential goodness, we become trustworthy.
It takes time to build the kind of trust that leads to emotional intimacy.
We need to experience many different situations with each other to build the trust necessary for enduring emotional intimacy.
In a committed relationship, these are the ingredients necessary for both emotional and sexual intimacy.
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