We want to know we can rely on our partner.
But if the expectations evolve into codependency, the romantic bond can turn into unhealthyenmeshment.
The difference between codependency and interdependency.
This is problematic because devotion to a relationship shouldn’t outweigh someone’s individual and psychological needs.
As a result, the partnership feels stabilizing and secure.
How can you move from codependency to interdependency?
This is a sign that it’s crucial that you recalibrate and find balance.
Here are a few ways to start:
Take time for yourself.
Set aside time to work on the most important relationship of all: the one with yourself.
It’s likely you have abandoned your feelings in the pursuit of putting the relationship above all else.
By using this time for yourself, it’ll helpseparate you from the relationshipand give it room to breathe.
Over time, these actions will expand your sense of self.
Create and enforce strong boundaries.
Codependents do not know where one person ends and the other person begins because it’s so interwoven.
If you don’t know what your limits are, pay attention to your body.
What aligns with your values?
What do you feel uncomfortable or comfortable doing?
Only say yes to the things that are truly okay for you.
Say no to everything else.
Fall in love with your community.
One person cannot love us in all of the ways we need to be loved.
Work on healthy, open communication, and see a therapist if necessary.
Interdependency can’t exist if your partner is still clinging to any codependent tendencies.
It takes two people to break out of the cycle and co-create something new.
Otherwise, things won’t change.
Be specific about behaviors in the relationship that need to change.
If you need help setting boundaries, let them know.
Be frank, open-minded, and honest so the relationship can change form.
