“A one-sided relationship can be defined as a relationship that lacks balance and equitable reciprocity.
If this sounds exhausting, it’s because it isphysically, mentally, and spiritually.
A relationship should feel like a safe harbor to play, relax, and weather the storm together.
After all, if you were good enough, wouldn’t they want to make you happy?
Your mind can spin in circles wondering why they aren’t putting in the same amount of effort.
You’reseeing your partner for their “potential"rather than seeing them as they are.
“There’s a heightened, ongoing experience of anxiety, guilt, shame, and resentment.”
If it is spoken about, it’s not received with mutual reciprocation.
Anything that might triggerconflictis swept under the rug.
You don’t have opinions that may trigger them.
On the surface level, conversations are pleasant and benign.
You’re not on the same page about the important things
Priorities about the relationship primarily differ.
They’re not excited or as receptive to hearing about the things that matter to you.
They may raise questions about your partner and how they treat you that you don’t want to hear.
You feel like you’re stuck or in a rut.
There’s fear around confrontation andintimacy.
Your emotions and your preferences take center stage, and the relationship, and your partner, comes second.
“Familiar chaos can feel less scary than unfamiliar peace and harmony.”
However, it’s not impossible.
What behaviors appear to be consistent across their relationships?
Are they unique to your relationship?
Is this person safe to talk to?
Do they accept feedback well?”
With this, explore yourboundaries.
Having boundaries looks like being clear about what you absolutely can and cannot tolerate and honoring that.
The only way to find balance is to discuss and collaborate on what can realistically happen.
Summary
If these signs are clicking for you, know that this isn’t on you.
