Likely, the term “tantric sex” brings to mind at least two people going at it.
But while tantric sexcanbe with another person or persons, tantric sex can also be a solo venture.
Introducing: tantric masturbation.
Here’s how to start touching yourself tantricallyplus, the health benefits of a tantric solo sex practice.
Omyour marks, get set, O.
What is tantric masturbation?
Tantric masturbation involves making love to yourself through touch, breathwork, and meditation.
Tantric masturbation is the best place for everyonepartnered, multi-partnered, or singleto start their tantric sex journey.
Walking the dog, doing your homework, and navigating traffic can all be done tantrically.
And yes, so can masturbating.
How to practice tantric masturbation:
1.
There are no goals in tantraonly intentions.
This can and should be tailored to your personal needs and wants in the moment.
Are you experiencing sexual shame?
Your intention for the practice might be to become more comfortable with your sensual self.
Are you feelingmehabout your belly or thighs?
Your intention might be to show those areas love.
Are you feeling stressed?
Your intention might be to release stress and invite relief.
“You want toritualize the experienceof making love to yourself,” says Piper.
(Here’s our full guide tocreating a romantic bedroom environmentfor tantric sex.)
Then, create a sex nest.
“Sexual energy only moves when you’re comfortable,” says Carrellas.
And feel free to put on some mood music.
Set a timer…if you’re gonna wanna.
If it’s Sunday and you’ve got nothing to do but solo tantra, skip this step.
According to Carrellas, masturbating tantrically counts as medabation (no, not a typo!).
Medabation is the love child of masturbating and meditating.
Not just any ol' breathing will have this power.
If you’re new to breathwork, counting your breaths may feel distracting.
If that happens, Smith recommends moving into long, even breaths.
Start touching your secondary erogenous zones.
You’re going to start with your secondary erogenous zones.
“This is how someone can learn to have afull-body orgasm,” according to Piper.
Masturbate, but make it slow-motion.
Just be sure to start slower than slow.
Your touch shouldnotbe vigorous, hard, rushed, or intense.
You’re not “rubbing one out.”
This is not maintenance masturbation.
“Stoke yourself slowly and softly.
Touch yourself as if you’re in no rush at all,” says Piper.
“Experiment with new types of strokes and ways of touching,” she says.
), you might use now as a time to explore a little bit of anal play as well.
Lubricantis encouraged, says Carrellas.
Making sounds can help move energy in your body, according to Carrellas.
“Different tenors of sound activate different chakras in the body.
If you’re not sure what any of that means, don’t stress.
Just make whatever noises come naturally, and don’t be afraid to be loud!
Bring in other aids, if wanted.
Yep, sex toys are allowed!
So long as they enhance the experience, not detract from it.
Silicone-based lube can fudge with the texture of silicone toys, making them tacky.)
(Not specifically to bring you closer to orgasm.)
Piper recommends vulva owners use G-spot wands.
It’s pretty amazing.”
Orgasm may not be the goal, but the above tips will get you there.
“If you feel orgasm come, keep breathing,” instructs Carrellas.
You may feel like the orgasm is getting away from you, she says.
But don’t worry about it.
“It’s there.
It will make the energy you have to orgasm that much more intense if/when you finally let go.”
Once you become a more advanced tantric masturbator, Carrellas and Smith say you might consider adding a mirror.
“A mirror adds an extra visual element to the self-love practice,” says Smith.
Benefits of tantric masturbation.
The fun and pleasure of touching yourself tantrically is reason enough to explore solo tantra.
Better, more pleasurable sex.
Stronger orgasms.
Again, orgasms are not a goal.
But a happy side effect?
So learning to breathe, as one does through tantra, can lead to a less damp finale.
Awakened spirituality.
“When you practice tantra, you become the center of your universe.
For some people, that will take on a spiritual quality.
For others, it will simply make them feel lighter, or more complete,” says Carrellas.
Boosted sense of self-compassion.
“you’ve got the option to’t think your way into self-love.
You have to spiritually, emotionally, and mentally do work to love yourself,” says Piper.
Reduced stress.
Tantric masturbation may have extra stress-busting properties, according to Carrellas, because it’s a meditative practice.
You get thestress-relieving benefitsof both masturbating and meditating at the same time.
Improved skin appearance.
All hail the post-O glow.
This can give you a good ‘ol sex-flush.
Further, stress can cause a flare-up of inflammatory conditions likepsoriasis2androsacea.
So by reaping the stress-fighting benefits of masturbating, you may reduce your chances of triggering a flare-up.
Period cramp relief.
Using tantric principles in your solo sex sessions mightsoundintimidating, but as Carrellas says, “Just try it.
Your mind, body, heart, and soul will thank you.
