Step One: Imagine your perfect lazy Sunday with your ideal partner.
Take a few slow, deep breaths, then close your eyes.
Take a moment and really picture what they look like: What color is their hair?
What do they look like when they’re sleeping?
Can you hear their breathing?
Let your imagination run wild.
Now, they wake up and open their eyes and they see you and make eye contact.
Notice what color their eyes are, and notice what their smile looks like when they see you.
They pull the covers away and you see their body as they walk to the bathroom.
How tall are they?
What physical form do they take?
Just see them as they walk through the room.
As you both wake up and start the day, imagine what your activities look like.
Do you go out for brunch or do you cook at home?
If you cook at home, who cooks and what do you make?
Smell the food in the air and see it on the table in front of you.
Picture the table itself.
Do you sit in front of the TV or in front of each other?
Is your table in your kitchen or on your balcony?
Do they like to talk about politics or work?
What kind of job do they have?
Do they want kids?
You wrap up brunch and head out for your perfect Sunday.
Throughout the day, notice the moments that you connect and that you make eye contact.
Is their skin soft or rough; do they hold your hand back?
Now, imagine that the day is winding down and you’re back home getting ready for bed.
I want you to have some fun here and picture your ideal sexual encounter with this person.
Are you in the bed or on the dining room table?
Are you wearing anything?
Are there rose petals or candles?
Taking a nice, deep inhale, savoring all of those feelings and images.
As you exhale, bring yourself back to the present.
How did that feel?
Was it dreamy and perfect, or did you have difficulty picturing many of the details?
Step Two: Write down 100 attributes you would want your ideal partner to have.
The items on the list should be more than “nice” or “kind.”
Be sure to write out the full 100.
Even if you get to 60 and think that you’re done, keep going!
If you feel stuck, think back to the visualization.
The same goes for your love life.
Step Three: Throw out your list.
The next part of this exercise is to take the list you just wrote and throw it out.
Burn it, toss it into the closet, tear it up into little pieces.
Step Four: Last but not least, see to it you’re fulfilled.
We believe that if we’re 80 percent fulfilled, our partner can bring the other 20.
But it doesn’t work that way because happiness is an inside job.
Because when you feel your best, other people are automatically drawn to you.
Take the time to get really specific about your desires, then throw the rest to the universe.
