And you want to get to the bottom of it.
How to tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you.
When it comes to matters of the heart, words can be clumsy at describing the felt experience.
Trust your instincts; usually when something doesn’t feel right, it simply isn’t."
Ahead, a list of telltale signs your partner is likely cheating on you.
9 signs your boyfriend is cheating:
He’s super sneaky with his phone use.
Of coursethere’s always nuance to every situation.
He accusesyouof cheating.
You know you’re not doing anything wrong, but his erratic accusations may be revealing internal strife.
If you bring up his behaviors and he exhibitsgaslighting behaviorsthat deny your reality, take note.
The behavior doesn’t add up.
The car seat on the passenger side is farther up than you’re used to.
He usually invites you out to hang with his work friends, but now he wants alone time.
He can’t stop picking fights with you.
Intimacy has changed for the worse.
There was a time in your relationship when you couldn’t get enough of each other.
You felt extremely wanted and attractive to your partner.
The passionate making out and sex was at an all-time high.
If your sex life has changed for the extreme, start paying attention to their other behaviors.
Communication is indifferent and distant.
He’s critical of your behaviors.
A2017 research study1found hostility is a surefire way to create distance and dysfunction in a relationship.
Whatever it is, Jones recommends paying attention to an increase in tension as a sign something is amiss.
His behavior toward you is different.
Perhaps there was a time in your relationship when they would have dropped anything to be with you.
Now, they almost seem uninterested in your life and more involved in their routine and schedule.
Their attitude has changed, and it’s impacting the relationship.
You feel like they’re too busy for you, which may leave you feeling needy and insecure.
Your gut is telling you.
Beyond tangible evidence, you just can’t shrug the feeling away.
So, definitely seek counseling for that so you’re free to learn to trust your gut."
What to do if you think your boyfriend is cheating:
Sit with your emotions.
“Don’t suppress your feelings; that will just cause you pain later on.
Don’t skip out on this stepit’s crucial for your well-being.
“If theyarecheating, then they can sit with that a bit longer while you figure yourself out.
Don’t snoop.
Trust is sacred, and if you snoop without their permission, that means the trust is already broken.
She recommends seeking therapy to work on thetrust issuesregardless of whether they were warranted or not.
Have the conversation.
Don’t worry about doing it perfectly.
All you have to worry about is honoring yourself and making sure you’re advocating for your needs.
A confrontation is the only approach that will confirm what’s going on.
Having a mutual, reciprocal relationship is what you deserve.
I’m feeling insecure and afraid you might be cheating on me.
Would you be open to talking to me?”
Know what you want.
“Do what gives you closure.
They made their choice, and you’re free to make yours too.”
What to do if he isn’t cheating.
“Sometimes we carry betrayal trauma andattachment traumainto our romantic relationships.
FAQ:
What do you do when you suspect your boyfriend is cheating?
How does a guy act after he cheated?
Each person is different, so each person will react differently in this situation.
How can you tell if your boyfriend is lying about cheating?
Look out for patterns that reveal they may be cheating on you.
Just know that policing their behavior to gather evidence can only go far.
(Still want to know if he’s telling the truth?
Here’s how to tell ifsomeone is lying to you.)
Is “once a cheater, always a cheater” true?
“Nope, sometimes cheating is really a one-and-done situation,” Sanders says.
The takeaway.
If you think your boyfriend is physically oremotionally cheating, the feeling can be difficult to pinpoint.
Instead of fervent closeness, there’s now an ocean of distance and unsaid emotions in between.
You are not alone, and you are not to blame for this experience.
