If so, youre not alone.
Some of these signs might appear obvious, but many very intelligent people miss them.
And hopefully save you a ton of valuable time in the process.
They’re inconsistent in their pursuit of you (or at all).
A person whos interested in you finds a way.
They call, text, and initiate; in short they make it happen.
Unfortunately neither of these two scenarios is likely to result in commitment.
This game of hot and cold feels exciting at times but will never make you happy long term.
They’re neither aligned with their mission nor searching to find it.
Yourtrust in a personusually grows in direct proportion to their degree of strength and confidence.
Without growth, its unlikely they can offer you much depth of strength or groundedness.
They consistently run away or shut down in times of stress.
Is this easy or fun?
Of course not, but it is very important.
They don’t follow through with their word.
When they set a time to meet, are they usually on time?
When they get you excited about a plan, do they follow through on it?
When they talks about their goals, do they take action?
Does they call you when they say they will?
Are they more committed to results or excuses?
There are plenty of ways to predict future behavior and integrity is one of the most critical ones.
They leave you out of future plans.
Their default response to your requests is acting defensive rather than curious.
They fail to stand up to their family on your behalf.
Family dynamics can add a tremendous joy or the most unnecessary stress to your relationship.
Its never about choosing you versus them; its about showing you that you are their priority now.
The person has a significantly higher standard for your behavior than their own.
They can’t stand their groundeven to you.
So now what?
No person is perfect and even awesome partners display a couple of these from time to time.
If your partner is displaying a few of these, have a talk.
Openly share your standards and expectations with them.
