Looking for a liberating sex position to try out?
Consider adding the cowgirl sex position to your repertoire.
It’s a classic for a reason.
The cowgirl position.
“The beauty of the cowgirl is in its simplicity,” DeSeta says.
How it works.
The penetrating partner lies flat on their back with their legs straight.
Why you may want to try the position.
The person on top is in control.
It’s a huge confidence booster to wield your sexuality and take charge of your pleasure.
(Psst: If you’re looking for more domination, try theAmazon sex position.)
It could be easier to achieve orgasm.
“In the cowgirl position, angle is everything!
The cowgirl position does not mean you sit on your partner at a 90-degree angle.
Direct clitoral stimulation for vulva owners.
Being on top also allows for you and your partner to grind or rub your clitoris during penetration.
It’s provocative for both partners.
There are a lot of benefits for being on top, but the person on the bottom receives too.
But according to Violet, the excitement doesn’t stop there.
If you’re on the bottom, you still play a vital role.
Tips & techniques to optimize pleasure.
Remember to focus on doing what feels enjoyable to you.
Play around and be handsy.
DeSeta emphasizes the importance of mixing in other sexual acts so the cowgirl sex position doesn’t feel mechanical.
Lean on their chest.
“In my experience, this one is a real ego stroker for the penetrator.
Use them to lean on!
Do what feels good and be creative.
Or, turn it around forreverse cowgirl.
Add a toy and experiment.
Violet suggests doing so by leaning back and stimulating your clitoris with your hands or vibrator.
“This will give them a full-frontal of your vulva [which] can be such an erotic experience.
Lean into the show you are putting on and allow thatexhibitionistin you to be fueled.”
Allow them to take control.
So grab their hips, hold them up, and thrust at your desired speed.”
Move and lift the hips.
Doing this will create deeper penetration and immense, extra pleasure for both.
Take the time to do that before you get going riding,” she adds.
Lead with enthusiasm and presence.
However,being mindfulduring sex can bring awareness to your entire body and engage all of its senses.
Those little tantric actions make all the difference.
Don’t forget the lube.
As DeSeta puts it, “Whether you need lubrication or not, it only amplifies the pleasure.”
The bottom line.
There is no right or wrong way to do the cowgirl position.
It will differ for everyone, so feeling good and being embodied is the name of the game.
Just trying out new and differentsex positionstogether will keep intimacy multifaceted and bring you closer together.
By continuing to lean into playful exploration, it makes sex fun for everyone involved.
Stay adventurous and giddy up, cowboys and cowgirls.
