Dating again after you were cheated on can come with a number of hurdles.
And when you do finally meet someone new, it can be difficult to overcome those feelings.
So, we asked relationship experts for their top tips on trusting again after you were cheated on.
Here’s what they had to say:
Know your emotions are valid.
“When you are cheated on, it is a serious betrayal and trauma.
There is nothing wrong with you if you feel really sad and overwhelmed.”
may come up, as you attempt to blame yourself for your partner’s poor choices.
This requires “a lot of tender care and support,” he adds.
Put your own healing first, always.
Be open about your fears.
As issues surrounding trust and vulnerability come up, you’ll want to clue your new S.O.
in on how you’re feeling.
Have a support system.
Consider going to therapy.
Page recommends therapies like EMDR, brainspotting, somatic experiencing, and accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP).
Be cautiously optimistic.
Yes, the unfortunate fact of the matter is there arepeople who cheat.
But not everyone doesin fact,the majority don’t, according to research.
Allow yourself to take as much time as you need tostart dating again.
Avoid placing blame on your new partner.
But still, they probably won’t be able to take away your fears completely.
Use discernment.
“Use your newly increased sense of discrimination to recognize deep integrity in your partner,” he says.
Seeing that happen will go a long way toward helping you trust your next partner."
