Breakups of any kind can be arduous and painful.
You truly think the ex was the best you could get.
But the reality is that there are many people in the world each person can be compatible with.
Nothing is stopping you from finding new, perhaps even better loveexcept your own self-defeating attitude.
You secretly think that youshouldsuffer.
In other words, it feels good to feel bad.
You still follow your ex on social media or maintain contact with them.
“Simultaneously, [this could] increase hope [of] one day reconciling.”
Theno-contact ruleis the best way to move on.
You’re still trying to make sense of what happened.
Feeling like you understand what happened is part of getting closure, which is necessary to moving on.
If youcan’tfigure out the why, that’s OK too.
Allow yourself to accept that you’re free to’t change what happened.
Take the lessons you’re free to from it, and then put the analyzing to rest.
You lost your identity in the relationship.
You haven’t properly grieved.
Your breakup triggered old trauma.
What now?
The next move, then, is to take action and regain autonomy over your own healing process.
