When was the last time you felt connected with your partner?
That feeling of safety and security in your relationship?
When you hear the wordintimacy, what comes to mind?
Intimacy is vast and is defined differently by everyone.
The best way to describe intimacy is to think of it as a connection.
If you want to be intimate in some way, you want to connect.
There are many types of intimacy.
There’s a connection between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy.
Two of the most powerful types of intimacy are emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy.
Emotional intimacyis being able to share your feelings.
This ability to share your emotions, outlook, and feelings grows your connection as a couple.
Sexual intimacyis being able to connect sexually with your partner in an emotionally and physically safe way.
In other words, emotional intimacy often bolsters sexual intimacy.
It’s important to recognize when there are different definitions of intimacy within a relationship.
Our past behavior, experience, and relationships are the lenses through which we view the world.
These affect how we experience intimacy.
Even two people in a relationship can view intimacy differently.
Both of you want intimacy, but it looks very different.
Neither of you is wrong with how you see intimacy, but you each have different intimate needs.
It’s important for you to know your own emotional and sexual intimacy needs.
Start by writing out your emotional needs.
Think about what actions and words you use with your partner to feel emotionally connected.
Next, write out your sexual needs.
Think about what you want more of, less of, your desires, turn-offs, andturn-ons.
Then identify which of these you want to see improve or change.
After you’ve listed your needs, ask your partner to do the same.
There’s a connection between trust and intimacy.
When intimacy (aka connection) improves, trust also improves.
Trust and intimacy move in tandem.
When one is down, so is the other.
it’s possible for you to’t have one without the other.
When trust is really good in your relationship, you feel emotionally connected to them.
Trust is high, so therefore intimacy is highoften both emotionally and sexually.
But the opposite can also happen.
When trust in your partner changes, so does your connection with them, both emotionally and sexually.
When there is a decrease in trust, your emotional and sexual intimacy decreases.
Improving trust improves intimacy.
That means working on building trust in a relationship is a key part of fostering more intimacy between you.
To do that, start with accepting that trust isn’t an all-or-nothing thing.
Some people make the mistake of saying they don’t trust their partner.
However, they’re still in a relationship with them.
To improve trust, your goal is to act and say things that enhance trust in your relationship.
Your willingness to offer help shows how much you care about them.
Showing genuine care and support is what improves trust.
