There are few things more fulfilling than having a close friendship with someone.
Maybe finding your social circle in college was seamless, butmaking friends as an adultfeels overwhelming.
Here’s what makes aclose friendand how to get closer to a friend, according to licensed therapists.
What makes a close friendship?
“Close friendships are important because we are social beings, and we are wired for connection with others.
“Therefore, having meaningful and close friendships meets one of our foundational needs for connection and belonging.”
Definition:
Signs of a close friendship:
Types of friendships.
Maybe you getanxious meeting new peopleor aren’t sure how tobuild a connection over text.
When seeking a closer friendship, sometimes, you have to make the first move.
“Everyone gets nervous putting themselves out there and being vulnerable.
Worst-case scenario, the person isn’t receptive, and you know you tried.
Aim for frequent, quality interactions if it’s possible for you to.
If you want to get closer to a friend, Chain recommends reaching outon a regular basis.
“Studies have shown that proximity and frequency make a big difference in relationships,” she explains.
Send them a thoughtful text, email, or voice memo.
Given thatloneliness has increased2in recent years, acts that increase social connectioneven virtuallymatter more than ever.
Carve out intentional time to catch up.
“Prioritize spending quality time together,” Raja suggests.
“Close friendships can take time to develop, but the investment is well worth it.”
Set a time for friendship on your calendar and schedule it like any other obligation.
Your friend is bound to appreciate it (and they’ll be motivated to prioritize you, too).
Plan an activity and share an experience together.
To deepen your social connection, Chain recommends planning outings with your friend.
This will give you something concrete to bond over and allow room for you to grow closer.”
Explore vulnerable conversations.
Close friendship requires vulnerability.
Support your friend through the ups and downs.
(Nobody likes aone-sided friendshipwhere everything revolves around one person and their needs!)
FAQ:
Why do close friends grow apart?
As people grow and change, so do friendships.
How do you make new close friends as an adult?
To establish new friendships as an adult, find a virtual or in-person meetup or interest group.
The takeaway.
Close friendships are also deeply personal, and Sbordone suggestsdefining your relationshipsin a way that feels comfortable for you.
A great friendship could be right around the corner.
