Let’s just start with the basics: Any orgasm is a good orgasm.
What is a tantric orgasm?
It’s about taking the orgasm beyond just the physical.
Orgasms are important spiritually because they get you out of your head and into your body.
At the moment of orgasm, you lose your egothe sense of being isolated from the source.
This is what gives you that “orgasmic glow” all daythe sexual chi charge that comes from inside.
That’s significantly more than a penis!
Activating these nerve endings creates an incredible amount of electricity.
Circle the tip of the clitoris with the tip of your finger to stimulate arousal.
Try moving from smaller circles to larger ones.
Vary the pressure from a feather-light touch to pushing down harder.
Push down on the clit and make small push-and-pull strokes.
Then slide your finger down the shaft of the clitoris.
You may wish to trytantric masturbationto really get into it.
Many people say that direct clitoral stimulation is the “only” orgasm they can have.
The vaginal orgasm centers around the cervix, which is, energetically, both psychological and spiritual.
It’s a full-on, no-holding-back orgasm.
Focus on tantric Kegels and breathwork.
Start in a relaxed, comfortable position, and breathe deeply.
Continually take deep, slow, audible breaths.
This helps spread the orgasmic energy throughout your body.
For this key in of orgasm, you don’t want the energy just in your clitoris.
Deep breathing can help move that energy from the yoni to all parts of your body.
(Here’s more onhow to have a full-body orgasm.)
A Kegel requires squeezing and releasingtensing and relaxing your vaginal muscles.
Feel for a little soft spongy piece of skin behind the clitoris.
you might massage it by making a come-hither movement with your curved fingers.
Vary between fast and slow strokes.
(Here’show to make a woman squirt, if you’d like to learn more about squirting.)
The nipple-gasm
Shyama pujais a sensual breast massage considered an empowering activity for people with vulvas.
Shyama is the tantric goddess of the heart.
It’s said that arousing pleasure through the breasts and nipples awakens that goddess responsible for love and bonding.
Begin by touching your belly.
Start with strokes around the belly, rib cage, and in between the breasts to tease yourself.
Take your time stirring up sexual energy before getting to the breasts and nipples.
Don’t pressure yourself to get the end result.
Then, start gently pinching.
When your body starts responding, continue to massage yourself while doing Kegels.
Just keep drawing that energy up to the breasts.
This makes a full circle of orgasmic energy in your whole body.
Multiple orgasms
Tantra is not about having one big orgasm and you’re done.
You may need to mix things up.
The energy orgasm.
Here’s our step-by-step guide onhow to have an energy orgasm.
Remember, tantric methods aren’t about one quick orgasm.
