It’s also normal for parents toset boundaries with their kidsin hopes to help them become independent.
Being clear and concise means being straightforward and stating exactly what it is you need from them without apologizing.
double-check that your request is concrete, coherent, and measurable.
Try this instead: “It is difficult for me when you drop by unexpectedly.
Moving forward, can you call first?
And remember I can only spend time with you on the weekends.”
The more you practice being concise, the easier it gets.
At the same time, being compassionate is also important.
Practicing compassion helps us stay grounded and come from a place of love versus defensiveness.
Showing your parents appreciation tells them that you still value them showing up in your life.
You just would likehowthey show up to look differently.
Rather, you continue to repeat your needs clearly and concisely over and over.
Where will you draw the line?
For example, can you only manage talking on the phone with your parents once a month?
There is nothing wrong with you for wanting to set limits with your parents.
This is a healthy part of individuation.
Pay attention to how you are feeling and how much discomfort is healthy for you to tolerate.
It is just is.
Boundaries are an important part in preserving the relationship and building your sense of self.
