Do you keep adjusting your boundaries to fit each relationship?
If so, it’s time to reassess what boundaries mean for you.
If you have trouble setting and sticking to healthy boundaries, these six tips should help.
Know this sad truth: no boundaries = little self-esteem.
The first step is admitting that your lack of boundaries stems from your lack of self-esteem.
Decide what your core values are.
What do you value?
Instead ofcreating your boundariesaround a difficult relationship in your life, you must make your boundaries about you.
it’s possible for you to’t change others, so change yourself.
Gosh, we all want others to change, right?
I mean, that’s part of the human experience.
We get into arguments with our spouses, hoping, wishing, demanding even that theystopbeing difficult.
We get mad when our moms call us five times in a day.
You want your co-workerthat one who is so negativeto treat you with more respect.
The list is long.
We cannot change others.
Since it’s possible for you to’t change other people, change how you deal with them.
Decide the consequences ahead of time.
So what do we do once someone inevitably tries to push our boundaries?
Decide what the consequences are.
(Remember: Boundaries are about honoringyourneeds, not about judging other people’s choices.)
Write down what you decide so it’s on paper somewhere.
Let your behavior, not your words, speak for you.
Present your boundaries clearly to people and then let your behavior do the talking.
Peoplewilltest, push, and disrespect your limits.
You’ll know you’re getting healthier when this doesn’t get an emotional reaction out of you.
When your boundaries are your core beliefs, you will not get riled up if you are tested.
Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
The biggest part of boundaries is how clearly you communicate them.
One way to quickly get someone to question your character or authenticity?
Say one thing and do another.
Sometimes we’re afraid to confront others with truth in love or relationships.
We conceal our true feelings because we’re scared of people’s reactions.
