Your match will have to respond in a manner that helps move the conversation forward.
It’s the difference between asking “Did you have a good day?”
and the more open-ended “What was the best part of your day?”
Highlight commonalities.
)," Zuckerman recommends, adding that an example would be, “Oh wow!
I love hiking too.
Where is your favorite place to hike?”
Start with flattery.
Fiana Andrews, Ed.S., C. She slid into her now-husband’s DMs with a compliment.
Both she and Zuckerman agree this is an ideal way to get things started.
“Who doesn’t love a compliment?”
Zuckerman asks, rhetorically, of course.
Just as you appreciate someone noticing your cool hairdo or cute top, guys like compliments too.
Build on the information in his profile.
Everything you gotta jump-start engaging dialogue is right there at your fingertips.
Andrews suggests studying his profile before sending your first message.
The answer should give you enough information to ask a follow-up question.
Don’t second-guess yourself.
“I’m an advocate for being the first to start the conversation,” Andrews says.
How to start a conversation on Bumble with a girl:
Mirror her tone.
Zuckerman recommends doing this by being mindful of her tone.
“One thing to pay attention to is the girl’s messaging style,” she says.
“take a stab at match it.
If it’s humor, use humor back.”
Return the favor.
give a shot to make compliments about their interests and profile information rather than physical attributes."
Pick up what they put down.
“Ask them a question within the same topic they asked you,” Zuckerman suggests.
That way, you two can continue discussing known mutual interests.
Where’s your favorite place to hike?"
Just as the experts recommend leading with an open-ended question, Zuckerman suggests continuing this trend tokeep conversation flowing.
Respond with an open-ended question of your own.
Mind your manners.
As important as knowing how to respond is knowing hownotto respond.
I see a competition brewing.
Zuckerman points out the effectiveness of light humor in sparking conversation.
“If you feel comfortable, start with a joke,” she says.
“This is always a terrific way to get a response.
Just see to it it’s a benign joke and not one that would be viewed as offensive.”
I love that movie too!
What about it speaks to you?
This line highlights a commonality and does the job of an open-ended question by prompting a thoughtful response.
Discussing how and when the two of you discovered something you both love can frame the entire opening exchange.
You’re handsome, you read a lot, and you’re funny.
What’s the catch?
Both Zuckerman and Andrews agree that it’s possible for you to’t go wrong with a respectful compliment.
This one doesn’t just note physical appearance but also your appreciation for his intellect and sense of humor.
I love your dog!
What’s his favorite treat so I know to have it on me when I meet him?
Because who doesn’t jump at the opportunity to talk about their furry friends?
Plus, you subtly insinuate plans to meet them both.
What’s your idea of a perfect first date?
This line accomplishes a few things.
It’s another open-ended question that requires reflection.
It demonstrates interest in getting to know your match.
It also presents the idea of going on afirst datea perfect one at that.
Let the fairy tale begin.
So, I had a rough one today!
How was your day?
Be authentic," Zuckerman encourages.
You don’t want to be a downer, but it’s OK to be vulnerable.
you might have any superpower for one day.
What are you picking?
Remember, the goal with an opening line is to spark engaging dialogue.
You want to ask unique, fun questions like this that give your match something to think about.
I saw you ate at that new restaurant in the city!
I’ve been wanting to go there.
What did you think of it?
“Ask them to tell you more about something in their profile,” suggests Zuckerman.
“Maybe you see something that they are reading or a restaurant they visited.”
I went to that concert too!
What was the best part of the show for you?
If you notice the two of you attended the same event, this is an easy conversation starter.
It highlights something you have in common and would both enjoy discussing.
Looks like you’ve had some fun travel experiences.
If you could have dinner with anyone in the world, who would it be?
Hey, they might answer with “you.”
You should know I’m much funnier and more interesting than my profile suggests.
It’s not easy to convey your entire existence through a few lines and photos on a dating profile.
Not taking yourself too seriously allows others to do the same.
This line will give your match a good chuckle and set a relaxed tone for the ensuing conversation.
Cute first messages:
FAQ
How do you start a conversation on Bumble?
It’s always Ladies' Night on Bumble.
This is the only dating app where women must make the first move.
What should I say in my first Bumble message?
All three methods prompt a response, which is your ultimate goal with an opening line.
Can I just say “hi” on Bumble?
Youcanjust say “hi” on Bumble, but it’s generally not recommended.
Keep in mind that everyone likely has more than one match.
You want to say something engaging that will spark dialogue and help you stand out from the crowd.
What is a good first response on Bumble?
A good first response on Bumble is to build on the initial message you receive.
If you get a compliment, say thank you and send a compliment back.
If your match asks about your hobbies, ask about their hobbies in your reply.
Read the room and reciprocate.
The takeaway.
The best opening lines don’t feel like lines at all.
Personalize the above messages to fit your match and align with your voice.
Authenticity is always the best practice on dating apps.
