No matter who you are, dating can be a rough ordeal.
But what if the feeling of wanting to get your date’s approval never goes away?
Here, signs your need for approval is sabotaging your love life.
You think you’re doomed to fail, and you’re trying to self-sabotage.
You’ve probably heard the cliche that we accept the love we think we deserve.
The sentiment has a basis in social science, however.
You’re probably not being honest about your desires and needs.
Remember that halting dance of white lies from the first few dates you went on?
And things will snowball.
You’re subconsciously telling dates how you want to be treated.
That’s not to say that everyone interested in youwill be manipulative, though that’s definitely a risk.
It’s impossible to create true intimacy without honesty.
After all, even if your partner doesn’t struggle with self-esteem issues, in this scenario,youdo.
The symptoms of a need for approval are scientifically unattractive.
This is the toughest bit of love in this article, but it’s still worth hearing.
That’s where the trouble starts.
It’s a vicious cycle that statistically happens to most couples in which one person has an unstable self-image.
“Fine,” the approval-seeker says to themselves.
The bottom line:
Whew.
There you have it: the worst case scenario for those of us who struggle with self-image.
