Have you found that you keep attracting narcissists?
So why do some people attract narcissists over and over again?
You have a narcissistic parent.
Breaking a cycle is easier said than done unfortunately.
“Our emotional minds seek familiarity and are compelled to repeat relationship patterns,” she elaborates.
“While not romantic per se, parents symbolize our first love experiences.
Whether a good or bad situation, familiarity is comfortable and often invited in.
You’re an empathic person.
Empathy is the ability to relate to and feel other people’s emotions.
You have low self-esteem.
You deny your own needs.
They make you feel good (sometimes).
If you look good to other people, they hope that makes them look good.
How to stop attracting narcissists:
Set firm boundaries.
Narcissists do not understand boundaries and will have a go at push through yours when possible.
By setting your strong and uncompromising boundaries, you’re telling narcissists to back off.
Work on developing rock-solid confidence.
And ditch anyone who makes you feel less-than.
Home in on a person’s values.
A person’s values speak volumes about who they truly are.
“There’s one thing a narcissist cannot fake, and that is empathy.
We can intuitively sense, most times, if someone truly connects or not.”
Identify red flags.
If only what you saw was really what you always got.
In the case of narcissists, their personalities will fluctuate dramatically depending on the situation they’re in.
A narcissist’s public and private selves are more extreme in presentationparticularly in their treatment of a partner.
A healthy relationship won’t feel like something is offbelieve yourself that there is.
Avoid anyone who tries to control your behavior.
The right partner will appreciate you for who you are instead of trying to make every choice for you.
