Most relationships go through phases.
You’re not sharing your whole self.
True intimacy is all about letting someone penetrate you (emotionally!
), and you penetrate them right back.
You throw your cards on the table to honor who you are and ask for what you really want.
Let your partner see you.
Tell the truth, even if it scares you.
You don’t prioritize sex.
Think of your bedroom as your sanctuary to reconnect and rejuvenate.
If sex isn’t something you two tend to do spontaneously, schedule it in.
You don’t have enough quality time apart.
If you aren’t being true to yourself, you are less attractive to your partner.
When you are revitalized, you bring that juiciness back into your relationship.
It’s the careful balance of closeness and distance that creates erotic tension.
You buy into the idea that after two years, it’s all downhill.
In the first few years, we put our new relationship at the top of our priority list.
We make time for it.
Once that feels secured, we pay less attention.
But you could maintain that passion and intensity simply by deciding to do it.
You’ve stopped growing.
So you aren’t married to the same person for 30 years.
you’re able to recreate the thrill of the new all the time.
This keeps you endlessly fascinated with the ever-evolving person in front of you.
How do you know when it’s time to end the relationship?
The bottom line is that you get to design your relationship.
It’s entirely possible to be with someone for decades and still have smoldering passion.
How do you want your relationship to look?
What are you willing to do to get it there?
