Loneliness used to terrify me.
I couldn’t sleep alone until I was 12.
I couldn’t spend more than a night away from my partner until I was 27.
My understanding of loneliness was conflated with rejection, inadequacy, and worthlessness.
Every single person on the planet feels lonely sometimes.
Loneliness, like most other feelings, is there to tell us something important.
It’s there to say,I yearn to connect.
I want love and closeness.
Loneliness in normal, healthy and universal.
They also feel sad, angry, hurt, anxious, and inadequate at times.
Actually, everyone is alone.
So why not give a shot to have a better relationship with yourself?"
Romantic relationships end, people die, but you’re with yourself always.
This is what makes your self-respect so important."
We are all connected after all.
OK, I know this might be a tough one to grasp, but hear me further.
We’re all connected to each other and to the rest of the universe.
Perhaps this is too abstract for you to swallow, and that’s fine.
But don’t dismiss it just yet.
Observe your environment for yourself and notice how everything is connected.
It will make the loneliness less acute.
Loneliness will always pass.
But loneliness, just like any other thought, feeling, or sensation, is impermanent.
Uncomfortable as it is, remember that it will come and go.
Remind yourself of this when as you breathe through the discomfort.
I can make space for loneliness and practice being kind to myself.
Then I run away from it,perhaps to Facebookor the fridge or the nearest form of chocolate.
Something like,You’re hurting right now.
You want to feel something else.
It will pass, but remember it’s OK to feel lonely and means you’re human.
So invite your loneliness in.
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