How can I tell if they will make a good life partner?
What is the most important thing I can ask them?
None of these questions has a simple answer.
The way we feelwhen we fall in lovedoesn’t necessarily mean that we are with the right person.
This is why we call it “falling” in love.
It doesn’t mean that we are compatible only that we are human and have body chemistry.
We need both heart and head to decide.
Also look for how much they blame or make trouble for others.
I look for two red flags when I’m talking with a client about their family history.
He’s so loving and generous.
He had a hard struggle with depression.
He’s a glass-half-empty sort of guy, yet he tries hard to be more upbeat.
The problem is he’s very reluctant to seek help and kind of stuck in his ways.
But, growing up, I remember how, most of all, he always loved and supported me.
“This is balanced; he tells it like it is.
Past relationships
It is important to discover what kinds of friendships someone has had or currently have.
The best sign is that they still keep a few of their oldest friends.
Additionally, see if they’ve been able to take some responsibility for their failed relationships.
Ask whether your potential partner tries to be fair-minded.
How they handle anger
You’ll need to observe this one rather than asking about it.
Watch how they behave when they don’t get their own way, are disappointed, or feel angry.
In life, we have to manage not getting our own way as well as hurt and disappointment.
Generosity
Generosity is considered the No.
1 key to a good relationship, according to along-term study at the University of Virginia.
Watch how generous your potential partner is in their treatment and discussion of others.
Do they have big dreams or a history of making those dreams come true?
Paradoxically, the key to intimacy is the ability to be separate.
Putting it all together.
In part one, trust your heart, the chemistry, and your intuition.
If only things were so simple.
This is clearly not enough.
We have two parts to our brain, both of which are essential to use when choosing a partner.
