But does “middle child syndrome” actually have any legitimacy?
The research on it is mixed, so we asked a psychologist for the scoop.
The birth order theory.
They include the following:
First of all: Is middle child syndrome a real thing?
They also tended to report higher levels of self-esteem.
So, middle child syndrome probably won’t be a bona-fide medical diagnosis anytime soon.
Here’s some background on what they are and how to use them to your advantage.
5 characteristics of a middle child:
They’re peacemakers and pleasers.
They’re competitive.
They give a shot to fit in.
This thinking might go beyond the home, too, and extend to school and friend groups.
They are independent and focus on friendships.
Middle children may feel like they’re “on their own,” so to speak.
They act out to get attention.
Either way, they’re looking for the attention they feel they haven’t received.
Middle children in adulthood.
The sense of independence that some middle children feel in childhood can also serve them well later in life.
Middle children can work through this by focusing on exercises toboost self-esteem and confidence.
Using being a middle child to your advantage.
“These can all be skills that can serve you in the world.”
“Give them their own alone time and praise their accomplishments,” she notes.
Family therapy may also help if you notice your child is having consistent issues with rebelling or acting out.
The bottom line.
Every family is different, so middle children can’t always be expected to have the exact same qualities.
