Rethinking how we define foreplay.
A good way to think ofactualforeplay, then, is to disregard theforeand concentrate on playfulness.
Foreplay ideas.
“Pleasure is experienced through the body and more specifically through the body’s sensations.
Sight:
Initiate eye contact.
Look directly at each other for an extended period of time.
Try eye-gazing.
“Begin looking into each other’s eyes.
Stare into the nondominant eye, which is the left eye if you are right-handed.
Stare for at least 5 minutes or however long you wish,” Adolphe instructs.
(Here’s ourfull guide to tantric sex, BTW.)
Use a blindfold.
On the flip side, disengage your sight abilities by using a blindfold to heighten other sensations.
Strip for each other.
“Stripteases can help spice up the sexual charge,” says relationship therapistAnna Dow, LMFT.
Do something else while naked.
Walk around completely naked together, especially if you’re used to being covered up.
Take time to really look at your partner, to appreciate every inch of them.
Play with lighting.
Dim the lights and light candles.
Bonus points if they have a smell you find sexy.
Try mutual masturbation.
Lie facing each other and put on a show.
(We have a full guide tomutual masturbation, too.)
Be the stars of the show.
Make your own sexy video and watch it together.
Touch:
Kissbut reallykiss.
“Kissing is vital in establishing pleasure and connection during foreplay.
But expand your kissing to beyond the lips,” Adolphe recommends.
Enjoy kisses of different pressures.
They will feel that intensity.”
Break out some ice cubes.
Let your partner run ice cubes over your nipples or inner thighs.
Try sensation play.
Spank each other, starting gently and increasing in intensity if desired.
Aim for fleshy areas such as the ass and the thighs so as not to cause any serious damage.
Enjoy the sensation of your blood rushing to the surface of your skin.
Wear latex.
Put an outfit on and then do something mundane like cook or clean while your partner watches you.
These activities require you to be up close and personal with each other without being overtly sexual.
Concentrate on the sensation of your lover brushing powder over your cheeks or massaging lotion into your forehead.
Let yourself relax into their touch.
Try nipple clamps.
Use nipple clamps to increase sensation.
you’ve got the option to apply them yourself or ask your partner to.
Make out while your partner gently pulls on the clamps.
Massage each other.
It’s a classic, but it’s a good one.
Take turns rubbing each other’s bodies, asking your partner where they especially want to be touched.
Use a good-quality massage oil so as to make everything glide along more smoothly.
To up the ante, try atantric massagesuch as alingam massage,yoni massage, ornipple massage.
Smell:
Get wet.
Run a bath filled withlavender oilor anyessential oilyou find erotic and invite your lover in to join you.
Introduce florals.
They’re not just for spring!
Do some light physical activity together such as yoga.
The sweaty scent of a partner can really get you in the mood!
Not to mention that seeing each other in tight workout clothes can be very invigorating.
Hearing:
Read erotica to each other.
This can be great if you’re too shy to tell them face to face.
it’s possible for you to also look intoaudio erotica, too.
Make a sex playlist.
Create a shared playlist on Spotify that you both add sexy songs to throughout the day.
Voice record yourself.
Voice record yourselves together.
The thought of making visual porn may seem too intimidating, so how about auditory porn?
Challenge yourself to be silent.
See how long you’re free to go touching your partner without either of you making a sound.
This works especially well if you’re in a place where you really don’t want to get caught.
The element of danger can add to the eroticism.
Taste:
Cook together.
Make one of your favorite dishes together, standing close to each other as you work.
Squeeze closely past each other and brush against each other unnecessarily.
have a go at go through the whole cooking process without making out to heighten the feeling of longing.
Serve yourself up.
Eat foods off of each other such as berries, whipped cream, or chocolate syrup.
see to it to keep foodstuffs away from your actual genitals so as to not upset your pH balance.
Use flavored lube.
Cover your fingers or toes in flavored lube and then suck and lick it off each other.
Bonus foreplay ideas:
Create a sense of occasion.
(We’ve got all the sexting ideas for you, here.)
Switch up your location.
“Put on some sexy music and dance.
Take penis-in-vagina intercourse off the table.
But therein lies the problem.
