It’s understandable to be apprehensive or evenanxious at the start of a new relationship.
Insecure feelings can arise from a deeplikely injuredplace within and need our compassionate attention.
No matter how supportive and reassuring our partners are, they will not resolve our deep-seated feelings about ourselves.
A few behaviors to watch out for include:
Constantly looking for rejection.
Our insecurities about our lovability make us think that our partner might abandon us at any point.
The next time we feel our insecurities resurface, we can remind ourselves of our previous conversation.
Perhaps we take it a step further and focus on the aspects of ourselves that the other person enjoys.
The next time our insecurities threaten to overtake us, we can recall these observations that affirm our lovability.
Regularly deferring to the other person.
Or maybe we don’t challenge her restaurant choice because we don’t want to seem disagreeable.
A healthy relationship happens when two people are honest and genuine with each other.
But if we deprive our partner of this honesty, we prevent the relationship from deepening and maturing.
Being overly sensitive.
When we are insecure, it is easy to misinterpret what our partner says or does.
The bottom line.
But all of this is fixable.
