Trauma is a tricky thing to process.
A quick caveat: There isn’t one end-all, be-all way to heal your trauma.
“The defining feature of a cult is this binary of ‘us versus them.’
“The biggest barrier to trauma healing is honoring that you have it,” says Frank.
Trauma looks different for everyone, after all, and it can bequite subtlefor some.
“It’s like indigestion,” Frank explains.
“It’s not an illness.
It’s not a disease.
It’s just that your brain didn’t metabolize an experience.”
I think that’s a good starting place,” says Frank.
“you might’t heal what you don’t name.”
Don’t aim for balance.
When it comes to trauma healing, many people become fixated on living a “balanced life.”
“I’m super opposed to the idea that balance is the vehicle for joy,” she declares.
“There’s no room for spontaneity.
There’s certainly no room for passion.”
It’s an important distinction, especially because your trauma might manifest at inopportune times.
You might get triggered by certain events, and that’s OK. All that to say: Achieving balance is not the goal.
Change yourwhys towhats.
“That is not the starting question,” says Frank.
She calls this “analysis paralysis,” as the introspection keeps you from actually making any progress.
Change thewhyquestion to awhatquestion: “What are my actual choices right now?
What are my resources?
What am I willing to say ‘yes’ to today?”
Don’t feel like you have to take a giant leap forward, either.
