Did you wake up again from anotherdreamabout your exeven though you know you’re over them?
These dreams that come and go or repeat can leave you second-guessing yourself.
They can even leave you wondering if secretly, deep down, you really are missing them.
I have good news.
Unless your ex just broke up with you, it’s unlikely your dreams are about missing your ex.
The real reasons you’re dreaming about your ex.
If you don’t still have feelings for your ex, why are you dreaming about them?
Everyone has unusual dreams from time to time.
If you have a one-off dream, there is likely nothing to sweat about.
There are many reasons dreams happen.
Sometimes the “why” isn’t so straightforward.
And dreams about our “ex,” specifically, tend to not be straightforward.
Even if you moved on from your ex, you could still hold onto the pain.
Sometimes we’re able to let go of the person, but we hold on to the wound.
Your recent dreams are likely to have some clues.
Pay attention to the plots and scenes you are in together along with the emotions in the dream.
you might do this by writing out the dream and identifying major emotional themes.
Imagine you are creating hashtags for your dreams.
Write them down and see if you notice any patterns between your dreams.
This can clue you into what wounds might need more healing.
(Here’s mbg’s guide tohow to get over a tough breakup.)
You’re feeling a familiar feeling.
Did the beginning of your relationship with your ex start out passionate and fizzle out fast?
Did you feel misunderstood by your ex at the end of the relationship?
You may be feeling something now in your life that’s reminding you of something you felt back then.
Reflect on the day(s) before you had the dreams about your ex.
Notice what emotional feelings it’s possible for you to identify during those days.
Or who in your life reminds you of when you felt misunderstood by your ex?
Connecting these dots can empower you to address the feeling.
Your boundaries need an upgrade.
One of the most unexpected reasons we dream about our ex can be an erosion of healthy boundaries.
If we struggled with boundaries when we were with our ex, this same pattern may be emerging again.
Your dreams may be a reminder to upgrade your current personal boundaries.
The bottom line.
Sometimes we dream about our exes even when we have moved on.
