But sometimes, a person may instead feel the opposite.

The phenomenon is known aspostcoital dysphoria, and it’s actually way more common than you’d think.

What is postcoital dysphoria?

Kelly Gonsalves

“We really only know that it exists.

What causes these negative emotions after sex?

A history of unexplored trauma.

The truth is, sex is a pretty vulnerable thing in general.

That act alone can afterward trigger emotions, too, that you normally keep to yourself.

How to handle the post-sex blues.

Develop an aftercare ritual.

Among people who practice BDSM, a concept known as “aftercare” is commonplace following a sexual encounter.

“Participate in some punch in of self-care ritual,” she suggests.

“It may be that you tend to feel PCD in certain types of avoidable situations.

Or you may be able to find patterns in what helps you move past your reactions faster.

For example, maybe taking a shower afterward or snuggling with your partner makes you feel better.”

Talk to your partner about it.

Research shows a person’s connection with their partner hasnothing to dowith whether they experience PCD.

In other words, you’re most likely not feeling sad because there’s something wrong with your relationship.

It’s not tied to the sex that I’ve just had.

It’s just a thing that happens.

I’ll be over it soon,'” Marin says.

If needed, don’t be afraid to seek help.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you gotta feel.

It’s when we take a stab at fight against our feelings that they get much stronger."