It’s OK to not want kids.
It’s also OK to not know yet whether you want to have kids.
The truth is, it’s possible for you to be happy no matter what you choose.
You decide what stories to tell.
For years I thought that deciding not to have kids would mean a bunch of awful things about myself.
Id be missing out.
I wouldnt fit in.
And all of that would mean something was wrong with me.
Now I see that it was all a story I was telling myself.
A completely optional story.
At the end of the day, we can find evidence to support any story we tell.
So why not look for evidence to support beautiful stories about our lives?
Stories that help us become the best versions of ourselves?
So lets say you decide not to have kids.
What will you make that mean?
And does that make you feel like crap?
Regardless of what you choose, youre the one who decides what stories you tell yourself.
Choosing not to have kids doesnt have to mean anything horrible.
In fact, it doesnt have to mean anything at all.
It can just be.
Were a funny bunch, we humans, thinking we can control other peoples feelings.
Any emotions they feel will be created by their own thoughts, and thats their own responsibility.
3. you’re free to survive any emotion.
Youre probably going to feel pretty crappy about your decision, right?
But the great news is you might survive shame.
you could survive sadness.
you’re free to survive regret and fear and any other emotion.
Heres the best way I know to process any emotion:
It’s all good.
So, as you sit in your indecision, know that everything is OK.
Even if you’re experiencing frustrating indecision right now, know that this experience is still important.
This is you realizing your own power in creating the life you wantone you love deeply.
