Planning a second date can be just as critical to sparking connection as what happens on thefirst date.
“Explore your chemistry and attraction and have fun (flirt!).
Simple as it may sound, this shows how attentive you were on the first date.
A second date is not necessarily separate from the first; it’s a continuation.”
This is why Freidus doesnotsuggest going to a movie this early on, for example.
“Then add in time for food afterward just to chat more.”
Having time to talk is especially important if you met on adating appand haven’t had much face-to-face interaction.
The serene atmosphere can help you both relax.
Not to mention water activities are fun and require teamwork, which can help spark a connection.
Go dancing
“At some point, dancing requires you to get close,” Moyo says.
“The food and music duo have the capacity to evoke powerful emotions.”
“Endorphins trigger positive feelings that will go a long way toward creating intimacy,” he says.
Go bowling
Competitive activities like bowling are fun, first and foremost.
This keeps your second date light and low-pressure.
Maybe make things even more interesting by wagering that the loser buys dinner.
It’s a win-win, as this is an opportunity to continue the conversation.
Spend the day at an amusement park
Freidus is an advocate of whimsical outings.
Amusement parks allow time and space for a little of both of those things.
confirm your date is up for it, however.
He encourages you to “enjoy the process of cooking together, not the end goal.”
Attend a concert
Remember, music + food = good.
She does recommend grabbing dinner before or after so you could still get in thatquality conversation time.
Consume any throw in of art
It doesn’t have to be a traditional art museum.
“Conversations about art are subjective,” Moyo says.
“This may be an opportunity to learn how out of the box your date thinks.”
The point is to do something engaging with your date and learn more about them.
And perhaps you’ll discover they have legit artistic skills.
Find a yoga session
The mind-body experience of yoga is palpable.
Imagine if the two of you do it together.
- You’ll leave feeling physically relaxed, mentally at peace, and hopefully, in sync.
Yes,couples' yogais a thing!)
This makes for a full day of fun, as well as plenty of in-between time for good conversation.
Visit a popular restaurant
you might’t beat good food and good conversation.
Dinner might be a bit cliche, but this is a common date idea for a reasonit works.
Having dinner gives you at least an hour or two to sit, talk, and connect.
Try choosing a restaurant neither of you have been to or one with interesting decor or a unique theme.
There are ways to spice up this classic date night.
Volunteer
It feels good to help people.
And that’s the goal here, for both you and your date to feel good spending time together.
Go for a bike ride
Again, physical activity does wonders for your mood.
Here, you could take a break, sit, and talk.
Going on a double date is a natural way to make the introduction.
They may say something that makes you uncomfortable.
Or try an open mic night at a poetry lounge
Poetry is the language of romance.
Hopefully, you two will hear some butterfly-inducing poems about love and leave feeling closer than when you arrived.
During winter you might go ice skating or check out the city Christmas tree.
Take advantage of these intermittent opportunities.
FAQ
What makes a good second date?
According to Moyo, a good second date creates an opportunity for authentic connection.
“Good second dates don’t come solely from how creative you are.
They come from how attentive you were in honing in on your date’s interests,” he says.
How soon should a second date be?
Freidus says there is no “should.”
“There’s no right or wrong, and every couple is on their own timeline.
Go on a second date when it feels right.
Is the second date a good time to kiss and/or have sex?
How many dates until you’re officially dating?
She reiterates there’s no correct number of dates.
Be creative, askgood questions, and like Freidus says, be playful.
Establish an environment that welcomes romance and deepens connection.
