Enthusiastic consent is more than a “yes"it’s a “hell, yes!”
it’s possible for you to do this part over text if it feels safer.
For example, if your partner is worried their roommates will hear them, ask if they’re comfortablesexting.
If they’re not confident in their words, video chat is a great option.
Be sure to get consent before each phone sex date.
you’re free to do this by straight-up asking.
Or, you might simply pay extra attention to how they speak sexually about themselves or about others.
(This is also great phone sex “foreplay,” by the way.)
However, you (and most people), might not be as comfortable.
As with any other skill, practice makes perfect.
Scents also help, lighting candles, etc.”
Take things slow
Phone foreplay is just as important as regularforeplay.
“Dip your toes in first,” dating coachAdam LoDolcetells mbg.
Take your time arousing yourself and your partner the way you would during regular sex.
Simply recount a sexy memory you have with the person."
That was so hot."
Harris suggests saying, “You know what I’d do if you were here right now?”
And then simply describe the kind of sex you’d like to have.
Tell your partner how you miss their perfect butt or the way they scratch your back.
For example, instead of saying, “I wish I could kiss you all over right now.”
Harris recommends thinking about all of your senses when crafting your words.
“What do you feel, smell, hear, see?
Describe it all.”
This might make them feel rejected or embarrassed and ruin the mood.
“Keep an open mind and have the mentality of ‘Yes, and…,'” says LoDolce.
“If someone says something a bit off, just roll with it and add to it.”
Regardless, it’s never bad to do a verbal check-in.
“Use a few simple lines to develop greater comfort as you explore,” suggests O’Reilly.
Are they comfortable sending photos, videos, or voice notes?
Are they comfortable FaceTiming while they pleasure themselves?
Be yourself as best you could, andbe honest about your fantasiesandwhat turns you on.
You also shouldn’t feel pressured to get off if you’re not in the mood.
