Being socially awkward is an interesting thing because it rarely shows up the same way.
It often shows up in different ways and to varying degrees.
Ahead, we explore the highs and lows of being socially awkward.
So, what does it mean to be socially awkward?
Interactions, as a whole, feel off for all parties," she tells mbg.
Shyness could also contribute to poor social skills, she adds.
Signs you may be socially awkward:
Conversations are hard for you.
“One of the main markers of social awkwardness is difficulties beginning and keeping conversations flowing.
Conversations are often disjointed, usually with long pauses or gaps,” says Sosa.
Conversations with new people generally tend to be short, adds New Yorkbased neuropsychologistSanam Hafeez, Psy.D.
It also indicates you need help with understanding/participating in small talk."
You’re a wallflower.
You’re typically on the outskirts of gatherings, Hafeez says.
You have trouble reading social cues.
This can lead to difficulties in making friends and forming meaningful relationships."
Social interaction makes you nervous.
Socially awkward people often feel an unusual amount ofanxiety and discomfort in social situations.
You’re hyper-aware of social situations.
You sometimes disconnect.
Sometimes socially awkward people feel moredisconnected or “spaced out"in social situations.
You avoid social interactions altogether.
Benefits of being socially awkward.
People may see you as quirky or distinct, which can be endearing and attractive.”
They can engage others in a very gentle way.
“Some people are more likely to spark up a conversation with a shyer-looking person at a party.
You have a different perspective
This ties back into being a wallflower.
“This allows you to help innovate, solve problems, and inspire others.
This allows for a greater appreciation of your own company and can help cultivate inner strength and stability.
Socially awkward people often find solace in independent activities such as reading or spending time outdoors.
“Allow it to flow in and out of your body.
Be curious.
Sosa also suggests taking an interest and being curious about the people you’re engaging with.
Taking the focus off yourself may ease the anxiety and allow for better connection.
Practice making eye contact and being fully present and engaged.
When we take a genuine interest and give our undivided attention to others, it shows respect and kindness.
After all, we all want to be around people who we get to experience that with.
Practice self-acceptance.
Another important factor in feeling confident as a socially awkward person is learning to accept and embrace yourself.
Find your community.
We are seeing more people embrace their own social awkwardness and forming groups of like-minded individuals.
FAQ:
Is it bad to be socially awkward?
Being socially awkward can feel like a struggle for some, but it’s not necessarily a bad thing.
What causes poor social skills?
How do you deal with a socially awkward person?
Dealing with a socially awkward person takes patience and compassion.
The takeaway.
But social skills can be developed and honed over time.
We’ve all experienced some kind of awkwardness in our interactions.
And don’t forget to offer yourself some grace along the way.
