The terms come simply from the idea that green meansgood to go, while red meansstopand watch out.
Red flags call attention to issues; green flags signal that you’re safe to proceed.
Knowing what to be wary of in relationships can be important in helping us avoidharmful situations.
Pay attention if your partner really puts in effort to hear and understand you.
Active listeningis a necessity for relationships to last in the long term.
They’re comfortable talking about their feelings.
Being able to go deep and get emotional is another green flag in a potential romantic partner.
A person who can tap into and talk about their emotions with ease is demonstrating important relational skills.
They have high self-awareness.
Self-awareness also means they’ll be able to recognize and admit whenthey’rethe one contributing to the issues.
They have empathy.
Empathy is the ability to understand and relate to another person’s emotions, or even share them.
A good partner is able to recognize not only their own emotions but also yours.
They’re engaged in the relationship.
They’re not afraid to make it clear they like you.
“Attendance is mandatory in a serious relationshipyou need to show up every damn day.
This is the first glimpse of that commitment.”
Relationships will always require active effort and equal give-and-take from both parties.
The relationship moves at a comfortable pace.
There’s never any pressure or attempts to forcibly escalate the intensity of the relationship before you’re ready.
They’re willing to be vulnerable.
They know what they want.
Clarity is always a good thing in dating.
A caring, mature partner doesn’t play games.
They’re kindconsistently.
They care about your feelings and well-being, and they put in the effort to treat you well.
They’re even caring and gentle when you two arein conflict.
They treat others well, too.
They have stability.
It’s a green flag when the person you’re interested in dating is stable.
They’re easy to be around.
it’s possible for you to be honest and speak your mind.
They take active steps toward becoming better.
Values and words should translate into actions.
They accommodate your needs.
You both have your own lives.
(Here’s a deep dive on finding thebalance between independence and connectionin relationships.)
And our partnership will suffer, as we will," psychotherapistKen Page, LCSW, recently told mbg.
That makes them less likely to rely on you and your relationship for their happinesswhich is a good thing!
You feel good around them.
At the end of the day, relationships should feel good.
