Making your partner happy is a cornerstone of a healthy and fulfilling marriage.
How do you do this?
“Focus on her when she’s talking.
Turn off the news.
Put down the cellphone.
Just listen with your full attention,” advises Manly.
Be attentive to the little things she loves.
If she likes it when you put the toilet seat down after you go, show her that kindness.
If she likes hearing you tell her you love her frequently, make that a habit.
Give lots of physical touch.
The importance of physical touch cannot be understated.
Work together to come up with the division of labor that works for each of you.
These results recognized the gendered impact of household labor inequality on relationship instability.
Express interest in her thoughts and feelings.
“Part of marriage is just listening with interest about the mundane,” Crouter says.
“Ask questions about her day, listen, and ask follow-up questions.
It’s important that both people feel heard and understood in any relationship.”
This shows that you care about her inner life.
Rather than playing the blame game, be collaborative in finding a solution to the problem.
In terms of key phrases to implement, Crouter suggests the following:
It’s not you against her.
It’s the two of you against the problem.
And don’t fight over text.
If you and your wife are disagreeing, confirm to do it in personnot over text.
A study out ofBrigham Young Universityrevealed that couples who argue over text are less happy in their relationships.
This includes disagreements, apologies, and general decision-making in the face of conflict.
It may seem obvious, but having important conversations face-to-face makes a huge difference.
Support women’s rights and equality.
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Ask your wife what she wants in bed.
Assumptions have no place in the bedroom.
Prioritize her pleasure in general.
check that your wife’s orgasms and pleasure are your top priority in bed.
Spend some time learning abouthow to make a woman orgasmandeducating yourself on female orgasmsin general.
But also, don’t pressure your wife into having sex.
(Here’s psychotherapist Vanessa Marin’sfull guide to supporting a lower-libido partner.)
Spend money in similar ways.
Opposites attract, right?
Not when it comes to spending.
The scientists concluded that the happiest couples usually spend money similarly.
Want to make your wife happy?
Again, it comes down to communication.
Consider combining bank accounts.
Is there one person in your marriage who tends to be “in charge” of everything money-related?
Celebrate each other’s achievements.
Supporting your wife, celebrating her, and making her feel important are all keys in making her happy.
Take care of yourself!
Self-care is imperative for you to be able to take another’s needs and happiness into account.
“you’re able to’t pour from an empty cup.
Further, encourage your spouse to do the same.
When both parties are better rested and recharged, marriages tend to be smoother and happier.
With science and expertise on your side, now the ball’s in your court.
