On average, it takes a cisgender man5.4 minutes1to orgasm from vaginal penetration.
That’s based on observations from 500 heterosexual couples from five different countries.
The fear of orgasming at a pace deemed “too fast” can create a lot of anxiety.
Images of having sex all night long loom large.
The truth is, there’s no easy answer when it comes tohow long sex should last.
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“Circle the top of the sac with the thumb and forefinger then pull down firmly.”
Use deep belly breathing
Adolphe recommendsusing the power of your breathto help slow things down.
Breathe slowly and carefully through your nose, and focus on the sensation of your breath inside you.
Essentially, use your breath to refocus your attention and arousal away from your dick.
When one has orgasms in this way, the body is able tohave multiple orgasmsand sex can last longer.
When applied directly (but sparingly!)
Also, be careful not to let excess amounts rub off on your partner.
The outside of the condom has normal lube so your partner’s experience of sex isn’t altered.
Do pelvic floor exercises
Many people think ofpelvic floor exercisesas only being for cis women.
In fact, they can be beneficial for people with penises too.
“The pelvic floor is just below the prostate and the rectum.
The PC muscle is located there,” Adolphe explains.
The PC muscle surrounds the prostate, through which your semen passes during ejaculation.
If the PC muscles are too weak, it may be harder for you to delay your ejaculation."
They are a handy, cheap, and simple solution for making your erections last longer.
All of the other tips about delaying the moment of ejaculation should be used in conjunction with this mindset.
Incorporate BDSM
BDSMstands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism.
“A sex therapist can help in crafting a plan with you to explore these areas.”
Neither of which make for good, mutually enjoyable sex.
“Focus less on performance,” Brito says.
“Make it aboutpleasure.”
The takeaway
How long sex should last will vary based on the individual.
